The Power of Intention Part 3 of 10: Beauty
March 4, 2009 by dr. lam
Of course, as a plastic surgeon I must comment on this one. Obviously, Dyer was more focused on inner beauty than outer beauty but he does comment about how we should look at the creation around us as beautiful. He made reference to an encounter he had with the famed concentration camp survivor and psychiatrist Viktor Frankl who during his time in the camps was given a bowl of filthy water with a fish head floating in it. Frankl saw the beauty in the food provided to him rather than the ugliness of it all. Frankl in fact states that the way that he was able to attain meaning in life is that he saw only beauty in everything. What a profound thought!
For me, I am fascinated with beauty in every facet. As you can see, my blogs focus more on attaining inner beauty whereas the rest of my website discusses how to attain outer beauty. To those who look at beauty as a vain, self-centered thing will not be in alignment with me since I have dedicated my life to creating outer beauty as much as inner beauty for others. I truly believe that when I create a beautiful result and especially when I fix an ugly one, I am able to help you co-create your future so that you have congruity between your inner and outer worlds.
Here are a few small examples of what I am talking about. I had a lady for whom I did fat grafting and a facelift 2 years ago and had not seen her for over a year. Her wrinkles had progressed despite a great result for her face. I asked her what had happened and she explained (without going into details here) that she had put herself in a bad relationship. I talked to her that perhaps my blogs would help her and gave her some of my thoughts on the subject. She said, “Wow, you really inspire me and I forgot about that.” I said, “There is no coincidence that you decided to come back into my life again, and Botox was only a small part of the reason.” I hope I made a difference in her life besides just wrinkles. However, I believe that her coming back to me more consistently will help me heal her skin while I heal her heart. I am filled with positive energy and I think I can make a difference in someone’s life both by affecting their spirit and their appearance. To me, they go hand in hand.
I had another lady that was going through a divorce and really wanted her nose fixed because it was a legacy that she carried of her past and her previous bad rhinoplasty. I knew that a few drops of silicone would restore her appearance. When I was done, she started to cry and said, “That is what I wanted for over 10 years.” I have now freed her from her past and given her the opportunity to move forward with her future. Now when she looks in the mirror she will see a beautiful nose and her heart will have been healed by her short time with me. I am very proud of helping people fulfill their objectives toward beauty, both inner and outer, so that they can become a glowing example of true beauty.
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Wow, I really like that viewpoint about focusing on the beauty in things rather than the ugliness in them. I think that we create our own world perspective by how we choose to view it.
I have a profound appreciation and outlook on the magnitude of beauty in all its dimensions. To me, everything and everyone can obtain beauty/order/symmetry and this “renovation” philosophy can even include abstract things like uplifting a friend, personal improvements, etc. Of course I try not to be too obsessive about this.
Even though I believe that beauty is obtainable in practically everything, I don’t believe I have Viktor Frankl’s exact view on this, because I see everything as potentially being beautiful and not as actually being beautiful in its current state. I more look at things as, “What factors are causing something not to be aesthetic and what can be done to fix that problem?” Some examples for me would be renovating something, gourmet cooking, decorating, makeup/fashion/fitness/cosmetic surgery, etc. I suppose having this view of the world might give someone a negative outlook on life, as seeing all the faults, but for some reason it makes me see something’s beautiful potential, and I guess that allows me to overlook the faults and its current condition. So in a way, this may be how Viktor Frankl was able to see garbage as gorgeous.
Dr. Lam, I’m glad you brought this concept up!
It seems that people with these “aesthetic/renovation oriented” personalities tend to occupy the self help aisles at libraries and bookstores, as well as populate plastic surgery websites…lol
Dr. Lam, that is a really awesome thing to be able to give people inward and outward beauty and to help people achieve harmony between the inside and the outside!! I recall one of your past blogs on giving people confidence through cosmetic surgery, and I have to say that, that is a wonderful thing you are doing!!!!
You are just like full of new concepts!!!! Bring ‘em on, Doc!!
You said you didn’t mind huge comments.
bigger the better! keep them coming. you are approaching mystery again’s status! lol.
lol
Heather is right, we create our own perspective. Perception is reality, no? I can’t imagine looking at a meal of filthy of water/fishheads. I wonder if I could keep my soul alive in such degradation. (no digression intended, such still exists)
Everyone should read Frankl’s book. It is one of those you’ll want to pull of the shelf and reread time and time again. You’ll wonder how it took you so long to find it. What a compelling example of mind over matter, as we say.
All this reminds me of one of my all time favorite films: “Life Is Beautiful”, circa ’97, Roberto Benigni. Similar vein, mastery of oneself, despite circumstances.
The blog is beautiful.
thanks nord!
“Beauty is truth, truth beauty ,—that is all. Ye know on earth, and all ye need to know.”
Ode to a Grecian Urn, John Keats
I know that one and I love that one. (Shout out to S. Hanson, Midwest’s finest lit. teacher.
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Thanks Dr. L.
Hey Dr. L, I think you might want to check out Ms. G’s comment on the “Kindness” post.
I’m roflol!!! I think your blog is being taking over by our conglomeration of gigantic comments! lol
i hope i can help ms. g. i open my heart in prayer for her healing. i can feel her pain from far away, and my deep blessing falls upon her soul.
I am sorry for that comment. I obviously hadn’t read it. How inconsiderate of me!!!!
no problem. i thought that was the case given how sensitive you have been. really no problem!
thanks for clarifying!
Dr. Lam I’m addicted to your blog now…it became a part of my daily internet tasks. thanks for showing and healing
Ahmad,
I have only been a vehicle for your healing. YOU have healed yourself!
just wanted to say that a staff member came to me today and expressed how much my blog meant to her in tears. that made my day!!!!
Talk about blog addition!
LOL I just subconsciously typed “lam facial plastics” as my email password and wondered why it wouldn’t open…lol
addiction*
great heather. nice password. wink wink!
we have a 12 step program for you!
lol Great! I need to sign up!
here is the first step: love yourself.
OK, Doc, I’m in love with myself; what’s the next step?
keep staring at the mirror. just kidding. i need you to stay addicted. lol.
Some recovery program…lol
sorry. don’t want you to leave the “program” that easily. we need new recruits! welcome sisters of heather!