Psycho-Cybernetics Part 12 of 30: Happiness is a Habit
May 22, 2009 by dr. lam
If we can achieve a profound level of happiness, we can then let go of the cloud of anxiety, fear, and other thoughts that plague our mind. At that point, we can allow our unconscious to move us forward in a positive direction. When we are unhappy, we are constantly pervaded by negativity, judgment (of self and of others), and poverty/scarcity. When we are happy, we can live with great joy and open the chance for success and to fulfill our goals.
How do we achieve happiness? The first thing we need to do is see happiness as a habit not as a future earning. Many of us live life as a deferred payment plan. We will be happy when we are in the right relationship, perfect marriage, obtain the perfect job, get better grades, have a thinner waistline, etc. Whatever we then achieve, we will then be daunted by another problem to distract us. Only by practicing happiness as a present emotion/condition, can we be truly happy individuals.
Happiness should not be viewed as selfishness. We have talked about this before when we discussed the Art of Happiness a few months ago. When we are happy, we radiate that joy to others. When we are sad and miserable, we remain in a completely selfish state that will hurt ourselves and directly/indirectly hurt others. We need to remove any moral appendages to happiness as a right, a virtue, as a merit. It simply is. We all should live in unmitigated happiness and when we do we can establish the underlying foundation and premise for our unconscious mind to flourish and for us to exercise a great degree of liberation in the practice of Psycho-Cybernetics.
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I really really like this blog about happiness being a habit. It is so true. I really need to work on this though, and it is not because I am not happy, just that I don’t view happiness the way I should, so this is really an eye opening blog for me. Thanks, Dr. Lam! I also think that happiness doesn’t have to be the smiley image that we always view it as (not referring to your pic here) but more so a deep state of contentment , thankfulness and peace, where yes that peace and joy can be radiated to others and seen by others, but it is more of an inward peace than a show. jmo I think that someone can be happy even when there are difficulties in life, which is what you are saying here that it is a habit and should not be based on circumstance. Just thinking it through… Very good post, Dr. Lam!!
wow, i’m happy that you are happy about it!