Psycho-Cybernetics Part 23 of 30: Hitting the Delay Button

June 11, 2009 by  

pdogAs we have discussed, a strong internal self-image will flourish despite the vicissitudes of circumstances that surround us.  In addition, the many previous blog series, especially those focusing on Toltec and Eastern thought, have helped us reach a deeper equanimity that is so very important to happiness and also to create the stillness that we need to move our unconscious servo-mechanism forward.

Maltz has many interesting ideas on how to achieve this peaceful state in our life so that we can be in a position to allow ourselves to move our servo-mechanism to our desired target (our goals).  With the multitude of external stimuli that bombard us every day, we have to quiet our own voice so that we do not become drowned out.  Think for a moment when the telephone rings, you have an almost instinctual need to go to answer it in a Pavlovian response.  Maltz suggests that next time that the phone rings, delay your response and say, “I’ll get up in a few moments but not right now.”   Hitting the delay button will start to disconnect you from the rush of external stimuli that may be disturbing your peaceful state.

Maltz also uses the example of a woman who had intense agoraphobia so much so that she could not leave the house.  In crowded situations, she would panic and be lost for what to do.  Then she thought to herself when she was in a crowded situation, “Wait, I am not going to panic right now but I will in two minutes.”  Of course, she continued to practice this mental game of hitting the delay button until she overcame her fear.  

Even though we might not be able to completely extinguish all of the negative thoughts in our head, we can “hit the delay button” so that we might begin to let go of our unsavory connection with the bustle of external prodding.

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5 Responses to “Psycho-Cybernetics Part 23 of 30: Hitting the Delay Button”

  1. Anonymous on June 11th, 2009 6:31 pm

    I’m really glad you brought Maltz to our attention. I’m going to read his book as soon as I can. Lots of common sense and useful philosophy. You’ve been a lot of help to me without knowing it, just by putting all these authors here and essentially previewing for us. Thanks Dr. Lam.

  2. Heather :) on June 11th, 2009 8:25 pm

    Hey this is great all you new blog buddies! Keep commenting!

    Dr. Lam, I love that delay button idea! That is great. I’ll have to practice that on a couple of things…or rather on a lot of things. I think I must just let myself get rushed over everything come to think of it. I even get rushed over my alarm This will be a great exercise for me. Thanks, Dr. Lam!

  3. dr. lam on June 11th, 2009 8:41 pm

    Unfortunately, I am responding to this as soon as I see it. That is my disease. Very hard to break. I really appreciate the above comment about my helping you guys out. It is really my honor to do this. Remember that I am helping myself too so that I can be in a better position to help my patients and also so that I can just improve as a human being. Heather, I have a great alarm story for a blog coming up in about 6 weeks to 2 months. Sorry for the tease. I also heard a great quote today from Einstein that says, “You cannot solve a problem from the same place that it was created.” In a nutshell, that summarizes what these blogs are about. They allow you to transcend your problems so 1) you will have fewer problems (hopefully) and 2) you will be in a better position to handle them.

  4. Heather :) on June 11th, 2009 8:54 pm

    Dr. Lam, I’m in bad need of a blog on patience! Come to think of it, this blog will suffice. ;)
    I’m excited about your blogs coming up!

    Great point about how these blogs are helping all us blog buddies!
    Thanks again, Dr. Lam! :)

  5. dr. lam on June 11th, 2009 8:55 pm

    again, here is my response in a microsecond from yours. lol.

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