Psycho-Cybernetics Part 23 of 30: Hitting the Delay Button
June 11, 2009 by Dr. Lam
As we have discussed, a strong internal self-image will flourish despite the vicissitudes of circumstances that surround us. In addition, the many previous blog series, especially those focusing on Toltec and Eastern thought, have helped us reach a deeper equanimity that is so very important to happiness and also to create the stillness that we need to move our unconscious servo-mechanism forward.
Maltz has many interesting ideas on how to achieve this peaceful state in our life so that we can be in a position to allow ourselves to move our servo-mechanism to our desired target (our goals). With the multitude of external stimuli that bombard us every day, we have to quiet our own voice so that we do not become drowned out. Think for a moment when the telephone rings, you have an almost instinctual need to go to answer it in a Pavlovian response. Maltz suggests that next time that the phone rings, delay your response and say, “I’ll get up in a few moments but not right now.” Hitting the delay button will start to disconnect you from the rush of external stimuli that may be disturbing your peaceful state.
Maltz also uses the example of a woman who had intense agoraphobia so much so that she could not leave the house. In crowded situations, she would panic and be lost for what to do. Then she thought to herself when she was in a crowded situation, “Wait, I am not going to panic right now but I will in two minutes.” Of course, she continued to practice this mental game of hitting the delay button until she overcame her fear.
Even though we might not be able to completely extinguish all of the negative thoughts in our head, we can “hit the delay button” so that we might begin to let go of our unsavory connection with the bustle of external prodding.