Psycho-Cybernetics Part 6 of 30: Creating the Right Self-Image
May 13, 2009 by dr. lam
When we talk about using our imagination, we may begin to believe that we are creating a false self image simply to delude ourselves that we are actually better than we say we are. That is not the case. Too often we hold an image of ourselves that must have relational value to those around us. I am inferior to you because… Perhaps I am a good surgeon but I am a terrible golfer. Does that mean I should look down at myself because of my poor golfing abilities? Obviously, no. We are almost always superior or inferior to someone else’s skills in a certain activity but that should not matter when we develop our self image.
We are striving to find our real selves not a fabricated one. We oftentimes short change ourselves and feel that we are inferior because of certain something or another. Maltz argues that there is no such thing as a superiority complex because someone who feels superior is most likely covering their own inferiority about something. We must escape our own self sabotage by envisioning where we want to be using a visualization exercise through a mental movie we talked about.
Focus vividly and concretely in your mind where you want to be in life. Sometimes it is easier to have your image projected on a movie screen that you are watching. Then for 30 minutes a day watch this movie and fill in all the details so that it becomes seemingly reality. Rather than force of will (which is our conscious mind), use your imagination so that your unconscious mind will begin to take over and effortlessly fulfill what you desire to be. Creating the right self image means first eliminating all of your false beliefs. More about that coming up.
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Woohoo, Dr. Lam!! Golly, didn’t know you were a TV star!! Did you, Vancouver and Nord?
I totally agree that sometimes we don’t allow ourselves to use our imagination, because of the fact that we tend feel like doing so is getting out of touch with reality, but that “reality” is really based on our fear of how we measure up with those around us, which is really dumb anyway, because we are all different with different talents and abilities. Such a good point! I love how you mentioned that sometimes we are so focused on people around us that this affects how we see ourselves. This is so true! I also love it that you mentioned that the self-image we develop should not be affected by how we measure up to those around us. I can’t wait for the rest of this blog topic about eliminating false self beliefs!!
thanks heather! thanks for taking this long blog journey with me. it is fun for those who have the patience.
Dr. Lam, thank you for leading the way on this journey!! Yes, it is totally FUN!!!
yeah!
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