Comments on: The Mastery of Love Part 3 of 10: Self-Abuse http://lfp-blog.com/dr-lams-blog/the-mastery-of-love/the-mastery-of-love-part-3-of-10-self-abuse/ Just another WordPress weblog Sat, 24 Jul 2010 17:51:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: dr. lam http://lfp-blog.com/dr-lams-blog/the-mastery-of-love/the-mastery-of-love-part-3-of-10-self-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-2771 dr. lam Fri, 20 Mar 2009 00:45:45 +0000 http://www.lamfacialplastics.com/lfp-blog/?p=1314#comment-2771 Thanks for the warning about next week. I love hearing people writing comments here. EVERYONE: SHARE THE LOVE! Even if it is just one line! Okay, I threw my pitch out there. Thanks for the warning about next week. I love hearing people writing comments here. EVERYONE: SHARE THE LOVE! Even if it is just one line! Okay, I threw my pitch out there.

]]> By: Heather :) http://lfp-blog.com/dr-lams-blog/the-mastery-of-love/the-mastery-of-love-part-3-of-10-self-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-2770 Heather :) Fri, 20 Mar 2009 00:26:05 +0000 http://www.lamfacialplastics.com/lfp-blog/?p=1314#comment-2770 Ah, don’t worry, they’ll be back. Your blogs are really awesome and you will always have your readers. :) I sure do miss them though…Mysteryagain’s great posts, Nord’s humor, and Vancouver’s intelligence, so I hope they come back soon! Also all the other blog buddies! People are just busy with their lives and things come up, but they’ll be back. I’ve gotten into the habit of visiting your blog first, Dr. Lam, and then making a trek over to the “Ask Dr. Lam” section to check out Mysteryagain’s post to get a broader viewpoint on things before I comment, and lately, it’s been kind of lonesome around here! Dr. Lam, you are always a blast!! Even if it’s just you. :) Hey, I’ll be out of town next week until Wednesday, and will probably be on an internet fast, so don’t think I have quit reading your blogs. When I get back, I will catch up! Ah, don’t worry, they’ll be back. Your blogs are really awesome and you will always have your readers. :)
I sure do miss them though…Mysteryagain’s great posts, Nord’s humor, and Vancouver’s intelligence, so I hope they come back soon! Also all the other blog buddies!
People are just busy with their lives and things come up, but they’ll be back.

I’ve gotten into the habit of visiting your blog first, Dr. Lam, and then making a trek over to the “Ask Dr. Lam” section to check out Mysteryagain’s post to get a broader viewpoint on things before I comment, and lately, it’s been kind of lonesome around here!

Dr. Lam, you are always a blast!! Even if it’s just you. :)

Hey, I’ll be out of town next week until Wednesday, and will probably be on an internet fast, so don’t think I have quit reading your blogs. When I get back, I will catch up!

]]> By: dr. lam http://lfp-blog.com/dr-lams-blog/the-mastery-of-love/the-mastery-of-love-part-3-of-10-self-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-2772 dr. lam Thu, 19 Mar 2009 02:51:45 +0000 http://www.lamfacialplastics.com/lfp-blog/?p=1314#comment-2772 thanks heather. again, really appreciate now a solo voice in the past week. hopefully, M/A or Vancouver can throw their two cents here. this is fun! thanks heather. again, really appreciate now a solo voice in the past week. hopefully, M/A or Vancouver can throw their two cents here. this is fun!

]]> By: Heather :) http://lfp-blog.com/dr-lams-blog/the-mastery-of-love/the-mastery-of-love-part-3-of-10-self-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-2773 Heather :) Wed, 18 Mar 2009 13:35:48 +0000 http://www.lamfacialplastics.com/lfp-blog/?p=1314#comment-2773 This is totally a good point to make. I think that there is a fine line between taking responsibility for something that we did that was wrong and blaming ourselves for something we did wrong. I completely agree that the amount of abuse that people are willing to put up with has to do with how much abuse they give themselves. That is a really good point to make. I also really liked the point you made about loving ourselves without self condemnation and without judgment before we can have the prospect of entering a healthy, loving relationship. I know a lot of people who use relationships to kind of help them “solve” emotional issues, without dealing with them themselves. I think this confounds their problems when involving another person and is certainly not a good foundation to have. I think that before we can love someone else, we must first love ourselves. This is totally the right perspective to have. I also think that if someone doesn’t know how to love themselves, or hasn’t learned how, they will not know how to properly love someone else. Your blogs are so insightful! I always get a lot out of them. Thanks, Dr. Lam! This is totally a good point to make. I think that there is a fine line between taking responsibility for something that we did that was wrong and blaming ourselves for something we did wrong.
I completely agree that the amount of abuse that people are willing to put up with has to do with how much abuse they give themselves. That is a really good point to make.

I also really liked the point you made about loving ourselves without self condemnation and without judgment before we can have the prospect of entering a healthy, loving relationship. I know a lot of people who use relationships to kind of help them “solve” emotional issues, without dealing with them themselves. I think this confounds their problems when involving another person and is certainly not a good foundation to have. I think that before we can love someone else, we must first love ourselves. This is totally the right perspective to have. I also think that if someone doesn’t know how to love themselves, or hasn’t learned how, they will not know how to properly love someone else.

Your blogs are so insightful! I always get a lot out of them. Thanks, Dr. Lam!

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