Excuses Begone! Part 11 of 12: Where Did the Excuses Come From?
October 9, 2009 by dr. lam
We can begin to see perhaps a time or a place where the excuse came from. If we can isolate our past and perhaps acknowledge that an excuse came from either a different time in our life when we were not as mature or when our world view was different, then we can begin to see how different we are today. We can be our own psychologist and investigate the roots of our own excuses and thereby help us liberate ourselves from our past and our prejudices.
Ultimately, we need to aknowledge that our excuses came from within, i.e., from ourselves. When we take ownership of the excuse rather than try to blame someone else, we can begin to see that we have an ability to free ourselves. For as long as we say, “My parents are that way, that is why I am this way, “ we remain trapped. When we way, “I have always been that way, that is my nature,” then we do not allow our capacity to take ownership of where we came from and that we can change.
I like Martin Luther King Jr.’s quote in the Birmingham city jail on April 16, 1963: “We can never forget that everything Hitler did in Germany was ‘legal’ and everything the Hungarian freedom fighters did in Hungary was ‘illegal’. When we say, “The rules won’t let me do it,” we may in fact be following arbitrary rules that were prescribed from false authorities that confine our actions. Following our heart is the most steady and truest guide to our own destiny. Follow your heart and free yourself of your excuses.
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Excellent! Really good point about excuses! I especially like the point you made from Martin Luther Jr.’s quote. Studies have shown in psychology that people that are in a crowd or mob behave differently than they normally would when they are personally responsible, so excellent point about sometimes rules are arbitrary and are prescribed by false authorities, and that the majority isn’t always right. Wow! Great point about following your heart and freeing oneself from excuses. Awesome!! This blog means a lot to me!!! Thanks so much, Dr. Lam!!
cool heather. that’s great!