Comments on: Excuses Begone! Part 5 of 12: Negative Speak http://lfp-blog.com/excuses-begone/excuses-begone-part-5-of-12-negative-speak/ Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 18 Aug 2011 22:56:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: dr. lam http://lfp-blog.com/excuses-begone/excuses-begone-part-5-of-12-negative-speak/comment-page-1/#comment-4085 dr. lam Sat, 03 Oct 2009 01:00:17 +0000 http://lfp-blog.com/?p=4428#comment-4085 no, nice point heather! no, nice point heather!

]]> By: Heather http://lfp-blog.com/excuses-begone/excuses-begone-part-5-of-12-negative-speak/comment-page-1/#comment-4081 Heather Fri, 02 Oct 2009 04:06:50 +0000 http://lfp-blog.com/?p=4428#comment-4081 Oops, actually, didn’t mean that people need outside positivity and assurance for their personal self-esteem (some are codependent in that area) as my point, just that people’s self-esteems are sort of developed subconsciously by their experiences and feedback from others. I mean, this is natural. Someone could give a speech in front of a crowd and if the feedback is that everyone is yawning or leaving the room, the individual would probably subconsciously or consciously conclude that his/her speeches need some improvement, but if everyone in the audience was roaring in laughter, the individual would think that s/he is a pretty good speaker. I guess what I meant was that self-esteem is established by more than just the good and bad self-talk that we give ourselves, that there are other aspects to it, such as feedback from our environment which can be conscious and subconscious, and understanding that can help someone gain greater control over his/her overall self-esteem. But then this is waaayyy off the topic. Leave it to me to go off on some extreme tangent…lol Sorry, Dr. Lam…lol Oops, actually, didn’t mean that people need outside positivity and assurance for their personal self-esteem (some are codependent in that area) as my point, just that people’s self-esteems are sort of developed subconsciously by their experiences and feedback from others. I mean, this is natural. Someone could give a speech in front of a crowd and if the feedback is that everyone is yawning or leaving the room, the individual would probably subconsciously or consciously conclude that his/her speeches need some improvement, but if everyone in the audience was roaring in laughter, the individual would think that s/he is a pretty good speaker. I guess what I meant was that self-esteem is established by more than just the good and bad self-talk that we give ourselves, that there are other aspects to it, such as feedback from our environment which can be conscious and subconscious, and understanding that can help someone gain greater control over his/her overall self-esteem. But then this is waaayyy off the topic. Leave it to me to go off on some extreme tangent…lol Sorry, Dr. Lam…lol

]]> By: dr. lam http://lfp-blog.com/excuses-begone/excuses-begone-part-5-of-12-negative-speak/comment-page-1/#comment-4079 dr. lam Thu, 01 Oct 2009 08:13:47 +0000 http://lfp-blog.com/?p=4428#comment-4079 very nice subtle comments about over positive remarks. i think that is true definitely for people seeking that praise. when we become more of the spirit, we simply do not need any of those reinforcements positive or negative. thanks! very nice subtle comments about over positive remarks. i think that is true definitely for people seeking that praise. when we become more of the spirit, we simply do not need any of those reinforcements positive or negative.
thanks!

]]> By: Heather http://lfp-blog.com/excuses-begone/excuses-begone-part-5-of-12-negative-speak/comment-page-1/#comment-4077 Heather Thu, 01 Oct 2009 04:56:23 +0000 http://lfp-blog.com/?p=4428#comment-4077 This is very interesting. I’ve found personally that there are more aspects to the self-talk we give ourselves. I mean, we have our conscious minds that we can either feed ourselves positive or negative language (which has an effect on the subconscious over time), but there is the energy around us from our experiences and feedback we get from others that has a subconscious effect on the way we view ourselves. If everyone around us tells us we are no good or treats us poorly, our experiences feed our subconscious minds negativity, and we believe that that is reality, which is only reality to us because we have limited ourselves to believe it because of our experience with what we think is reality. Also, people that have constant appraisal from others, such as movie stars and celebs, can develop an over-ego because of the constant positive feedback that the environment is feeding their conscious and subconscious minds. Of course, we can override that by positive self-assurance, and also override positive feedback by negative self-talk or neutral self-talk, but ultimately I think our experiences control our personal outlook about ourselves. This does not mean that we can’t end up in complete control about how we view ourselves, because we can control who we hang around and so forth to a degree and the way we handle feedback from the environment. Now, I have no clue if I made an ounce of sense here, but it made sense to me…lol I love your twist of removing our minds from thinking in a limited state to becoming unbridled in gratitude for what we do have. That was an excellent point. Great idea to remove negative thoughts and to catch excuses as a focus this week. I’m also going to try to think about the positives instead of focusing on the negatives and also try to create a positive environment to those around me by complimenting them and giving off invisible positive energy. Also, I’m going to try to hang around positive people. Awesome! This is very interesting. I’ve found personally that there are more aspects to the self-talk we give ourselves. I mean, we have our conscious minds that we can either feed ourselves positive or negative language (which has an effect on the subconscious over time), but there is the energy around us from our experiences and feedback we get from others that has a subconscious effect on the way we view ourselves. If everyone around us tells us we are no good or treats us poorly, our experiences feed our subconscious minds negativity, and we believe that that is reality, which is only reality to us because we have limited ourselves to believe it because of our experience with what we think is reality. Also, people that have constant appraisal from others, such as movie stars and celebs, can develop an over-ego because of the constant positive feedback that the environment is feeding their conscious and subconscious minds. Of course, we can override that by positive self-assurance, and also override positive feedback by negative self-talk or neutral self-talk, but ultimately I think our experiences control our personal outlook about ourselves. This does not mean that we can’t end up in complete control about how we view ourselves, because we can control who we hang around and so forth to a degree and the way we handle feedback from the environment. Now, I have no clue if I made an ounce of sense here, but it made sense to me…lol

I love your twist of removing our minds from thinking in a limited state to becoming unbridled in gratitude for what we do have. That was an excellent point.

Great idea to remove negative thoughts and to catch excuses as a focus this week. I’m also going to try to think about the positives instead of focusing on the negatives and also try to create a positive environment to those around me by complimenting them and giving off invisible positive energy. Also, I’m going to try to hang around positive people. Awesome!

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