Excuses Begone! Part 7 of 12: Willingness
October 2, 2009 by dr. lam
This chapter is nothing short of brilliant. We tend to be victims of ourselves. We pay lip service to what we want, but our heart tells a different story. Our unconscious mind directs our conscious mind to say one thing but not to really do it. We live a self-defeating vision because we claim we want something but then we commit multiple, tiny actions to abort our very own success.
Sometimes we behave in such a fashion because our new vision is incompatible with our old vision, one that we hold onto that lingers despite our conscious level acknowledgment. We say, “I want an advanced degree.” Then we say to ourselves somewhere deep down, “I don’t have enough time” so we make efforts to fill our days so we don’t have enough time then we tell our unconscious self, “See, I don’t have enough time.” We say, “I want to become fit” then we say, “Boy, that knee of mine is really acting up again. I guess I shouldn’t really start just yet. I’ll see the doctor next month, then we’ll make a decision then.” We are our own worst enemies.
Our vision should be our vision and no one else’s. Sometimes we fear the repercussions of others’ thoughts and words about what we are trying to do. “Why are you trying to go back to school at 45 years of age? Are you crazy?” I love the line that Dyer has here, “What you think of me is none of my business.” That is hilarious and so true. We should not live as a byproduct of someone else’s prejudices but we should live in congruence with what we want. What lie is your unconscious mind feeding your conscious mind about what you really want? What actions are you taking to prevent you from attaining your goal? What are you worried that someone else will say about you?
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I’ve heard the one, “Don’t worry about what people think; they don’t do it very often.”…lol Liked yours though! Great point! I really liked your point that our vision has to be ours and no one else’s.
Very good ideas here! Very deep psychology too. Nice one to keep in mind over the weekend. Maybe I’ll come up with a theory here…lol I think there’s more to that psychology than just self-talk against what we originally wanted. I think it has to do with being in natural control or entering out of natural control that either allows us to be in congruence with what we really want or our own enemy, but obviously there’s more to it than that. I think that also congruence with what we want and our actions involves more psychology than just an awareness of the thought processes that are not in congruence or a fear of what someone else thinks, although that is definitely part of the puzzle. I’ll figure it out. My sisters and I were discussing this earlier. Great stuff here, Dr. Lam!! You just really bring up deep concepts all the time!! Awesome!!
You ROCK!!!
thanks heather. glad you got something out of it!