Monday Meditations Part 5: Hindrance Meditation
May 25, 2009 by dr. lam · 2 Comments
Many of our meditative thoughts drift to our concerns and our fears. We cannot stay centered very well because we tend to start to let our worries consume us and we are propelled back to our daily anxieties. This exercise allows us to see what our hindrances are and confront them in a meditative and non-judgmental way. As we start this exercise like all meditations so far, we begin with a grounding in our breath. We focus on the nature and quality of our breathing before we proceed. As our mind naturally begins to drift toward a hindrance or an encumbrance in our life, we center that thought into our mind and allow it to float in front of us. We relinquish our judgment of that thought and let the fear and anxiety that typically surrounds it go and we replace those emotions with love, peace, and acceptance. As further hindrances enter our mind and our spirit we continue to allow those thoughts to mature and to float but we withhold negative ruminations and prejudices about our perceived hindrance. We allow us to see ourselves overcoming our hindrance and allowing us to go beyond the limitations of this hindrance. We allow ourselves to move forward without perturbation or restriction. We begin to see the hindrance no longer as a hindrance but just as, i.e., just let it be. When we have “overcome” or accepted these hindrances, we return back to our centered breathing and end with a focus on the breath. Here is a video guide to help you with this exercise. Wishing you and your family a blessed Memorial Day weekend. Namaste.
Monday Meditations Part 4: Walking Meditation
May 18, 2009 by dr. lam · 5 Comments
Many of us Type A/high-strung individuals cannot meditate sitting still. Our bodies become agitated and our minds begin to wander easily. We need movement and stimulation to keep us centered. This exercise allows our bodies to flow so that our mind can remain centered. We permit our mind to focus on the activity of walking so that we have a grounding and a focus for our thoughts.
Start with either bare feet or stockinged/socked feet so that you can feel the ground under you. Plan a path where you will be walking either in nature or indoors. Even if the path is relatively short, you can traverse this distance and redouble on your tracks without a problem. Just plan your path out in advance so that you don’t need to worry about where you will be going.
As you begin the exercise, remember to start with the fundamental of your breath. Focus on the rhythm of your breathing and allowing yourself to breathe more quickly or more slowly depending on your body’s needs. As you breathe, enjoy the rich breath that is giving you nourishment and life. Then start to focus on your legs and toes as you walk over the terrain and enjoy the feeling of the ground under your feet and the related sensations. As you walk, enjoy the feeling of walking. If your mind wanders, bring it back to the focus of walking and the feeling of the air against your face if you are outside and the sounds around you or if you are inside just stay centered on your breathing and walking. As you conclude the exercise, return your thoughts back to your breathing and finish with your breath meditation.
Here is a video guide to help you with this meditation. Namaste.
Monday Meditations Part 3: Mindfulness Meditation
May 11, 2009 by dr. lam · 10 Comments
Oftentimes when we meditate, we become distracted with our daily concerns. We lose the Power of Now and begin to let our mind drift to the concerns of the day that distract our inner peace. We try to pull our mind back to the fundamental of our breathing but we fail. This exercise allows our mind to travel and to enjoy the travel that our mind takes.
We begin with the fundamental exercise, which is our breathing, enjoying and focusing on the rise and fall of our breath and the natural cadence that our breath takes. From there, as our mind travels, we do not constrain it but let it be. Wherever our mind goes, we allow it to “daydream” and when we arrive at a thought, we don’t judge the thought or deny the thought, we just allow. We label the thought as “thinking” and we allow the thought to exist without force or implication. If our mind goes elsewhere, we allow the thought to blossom. If it is a negative thought, we do not label it as such but we allow it to be just there floating in front of us and around us. We allow the thought to just be withholding fear, anxiety, or judgment. We accept the thought as being part of us, our nature, our being. We then close the exercise with a return to our breathing, focusing again on each in-breath (inhalation) and each out-breath (exhalation) before we return to our world.
The following video is a guided tour to help you stay on a budgeted time of under 10 minutes and to help you stay on track during this exercise for those who can have the luxury of playing the video in their quiet place of meditation. Namaste.
Also, I just started a new Facebook group that is non-profit (don’t worry no donations), non-sectarian (no religious affiliation), non-political and that is dedicated to promoting love and peace to everyone in the world. I would greatly appreciate it if you joined the group and then invited ALL of your friends to join. Let’s start a revolution! Spread the word! Here is the link to the page.
Monday Meditations Part 2: Hatha Yoga
May 4, 2009 by dr. lam · 4 Comments
Hatha yoga is a discipline that focuses on the movement of the mind rather than the body. As most of you know, I started doing yoga several times a week about 3 months ago, and it is one of the best things that I could do for my body and mind. Hatha yoga focuses on using your mind to relax and control your body. It is also known as the “body scan” technique since you use your mind to wash over each part of your body one at a time. It is a powerful exercise and one of my favorites if not my favorite.
When I encounter nervous patients, I use this exercise as the middle of 3 as I need to. I start with the breathing exercise and call it quits there if that is sufficient to get someone relaxed. If not, I move onward to the body scan to help them relax each part of their body going from one muscle group to another. I then work with them on a visualization exercise if they need it. I think some of you remember the beach visualization exercise I did. I actually helped another patient of mine who was a professional ballet dancer in youth return to her days of glory on stage through this exercise. Okay, that is another meditation so let’s return to our hatha yoga exercise.
With this meditation, you can either stay seated or you can be fully recumbent (just don’t fall asleep!). If you are in a cool place, make sure that you have blankets or whatever you need to make sure you stay comfortable and warm during the meditation. The video I shot will help guide you in this exercise but for those who cannot watch the video or choose not to do so, let me summarize what I would like you to do.
First, calm your breathing and focus again on the primal breath. Allow yourself a minute or two to just focus on the breath and your breathing, naming each breath as it goes in and out. Then center your mind on each of the following body parts. Begin on your forehead and allow yourself to sweep your mind back and forth over each body part and allow yourself to start to relax your muscle and let go of the tension. Repeat that same exercise as you move from your forehead to your nose, left cheek, right cheek, jaw (let your jaw go lax), neck, spine, right shoulder, right arm, right fingers, left shoulder, left arm, left fingers, chest muscles, abdomen, pelvis, right thigh, right leg, right toes, left thigh, left leg, and then left toes. Bring your focus back to your breathing as you finish your meditation.
Namaste.
Leadership Gold Part 2 of 10: Leading Yourself
February 17, 2009 by dr. lam · 8 Comments
Most oftentimes a leader is focused on leading other people without truly realizing that the most important person to lead and also the most difficult is himself or herself. The reason that I write these blogs is as an exercise to get myself better as a leader. They are life lessons for me first. If I cannot lead myself, I will have no followers following me.
Most oftentimes, we do not work at self-improvement but look at everyone around us as needing work. Maxwell says that when we criticize someone else, that is called constructive criticism. However, when someone criticizes us we call that destructive criticism. I am certainly not perfect at taking criticism, but I am a lot better today than I was even last year and last year I was better than the year prior. Remember from the 4 agreements, “never to take anything personally”. That is very important in this case. Too often when we judge others, we judge them by THEIR actions, whereas when we judge ourselves we judge ourselves by our intentions. This two-tier system of criticism leads us to failure because we never meant anything by what we did or so we rationalize, but that person certainly should have known better. We must strive to create a harmonious congruity by how we perceive ourselves and others.
Maxwell, a former preacher, still says that he ultimately does not trust himself to lead himself. That is why he has established external accountability for his actions. That is why I wrote about accountability a couple of weeks ago and why I emphasized how I am accountable to other business leaders/owners in my EO forum group. How have you made yourself accountable? To whom? What interval?
We as leaders (and that means all of you too!) must hold ourselves to a higher level of accountability. Linda, who is my spa director, asked me last year why I have apologized to my staff for seemingly small infractions, and I explained that as a leader I hold myself to a higher level of accountability of who I am and who I should aim to be. There is no other person that can truly hold you to that level of accountability than yourself.
When we first lead ourselves, we can then have a chance at leading others around us. I have learned a lot about real-life leadership this past year and have worked even more diligently at becoming a more centered leader. By virtue of that, my patients and my staff and everyone around me has benefited. I must start with myself. You must start with yourself. We must start with ourselves. I look at my readership as part of my extended team at LFP because I would love for all of us to grow as humans in our common fraternity.